It’s not easy being Harry Styles’ date – and he knows it.
in conversation with Rolling Stone, the 28-year-old British pop star and heartthrob spoke about his fans’ relationship with his 38-year-old girlfriend Olivia Wilde and how “difficult” it has been. Wilde, who directed it in Do not worry, dear when they started dating in late 2020, he also spoke with his own thoughts about the “toxic negativity” they were hit with.
“It obviously doesn’t make me feel good,” Styles said when asked about the hatred directed at Wilde by a corner of his fandom. Fodder includes criticism about the age difference, some of her previous comments resurfaced, her dancing skills at her shows, and accusations that she somehow stole Styles from fans.
The “As It Was” singer spoke about the boundaries he’s created between being a pop icon and his life out of the spotlight, from having a minimal presence on social media to his showering ritual immediately after every show to clean up worship.” unnatural” aimed at him as a pop superstar and returning him to his vulnerable human form. But even with these limits, sometimes “other people confuse the lines for you”.
“Obviously it’s a hard feeling to feel like being around me means you’re on the rescue of a Twitter corner or something,” he said. “I just wanted to sing. I didn’t want to get into it if I was going to hurt people like that.”
Wilde was asked about fan hatred for the article and her response was described as diplomatic. She described her fandom generally as “deeply loving people” who have fostered an accepting community that is known for being a safe space where they can be themselves. However, she continued: “What I don’t understand about the cruelty you’re referring to is that this kind of toxic negativity is the antithesis of Harry and everything he puts out there. I personally don’t believe hateful energy defines it. your fan base. Most of them are true champions of kindness.”
Styles talked about how negativity has made some awkward conversations in his life.
“Can you imagine going on a second date with someone and being like, ‘OK, there’s this corner of the thing, and they’re going to say that, and it’s going to be really crazy, and they’re going to be very mean, and it’s not real. . But anyway, what do you want to eat?'”
He said his mo is and always has been to separate his public persona and personal life.
“I’ve never spoken publicly about my life away from work and I’ve found it positively benefited me,” he said. “There will always be one version of a narrative, and I think I decided I wasn’t going to waste time trying to correct it or redirect it in any way.”
Styles also talked about having kids one day. Wilde has two with ex-fiancé Jason Sudeikis – and they were spotted with their mother in love on tour show.
“Well, if I ever have kids, I’m going to encourage them to be themselves and vulnerable and shared,” he said.
Elsewhere in the interview, Styles also addressed accusations of “queerbaiting”.
“Sometimes people say, ‘You’ve only been publicly with women,’ and I don’t think I’ve been publicly with anyone,” he said. “If someone takes a picture of you with someone, that doesn’t mean you’re choosing to be in a public relationship or anything.”
Styles and Wilde started dating in the fall of 2020 while filming Do not worry, dear during the pandemic. She split from Sudeikis — with whom she shares Otis, 8, and Daisy, 5 — around this time, and went public with Styles in January 2021. The movie comes out September 23.
Meanwhile, Wilde and Sudeikis are having a bitter custody dispute. He served her while she was on stage at CinemaCon. He recently lost his attempt to transfer the custody dispute to the New York courts. A judge ruled that custody must be determined in California, which was the children’s home state prior to the couple’s separation. In court documents, Sudeikis revealed that Wilde plans to move from Los Angeles to London — Styles’ home base (he also has a home in Los Angeles) — after the 2022-2023 school year ends next June.